August 13, 2007

Whose Day Is It Anyways?

Tradition holds that a wedding is the bride’s day. Hers to dream, hers to plan, hers to hope that it is the day she has always dreamed of. Reality, unfortunately, often rears its ugly head in the form of parents with a plan, in-laws with a grudge, scheming bridesmaids, or a "dyed-in-the-wool" bachelor Best Man.

Here’s how to avoid your day being run rampant by those who think they know best:

• Plan, Plan, Plan: Before anyone else gets involved in the planning and preparation of your wedding, discuss it thoroughly with your intended. Work out a plan, a budget and your expectations, and prepare to stick to your guns.
• Choose Your Battles: Understand that most buddinski’s are well-meaning, if sometimes too forthright in their beliefs on how your day should go. Give them some input on some smaller wedding accessories or on choosing wedding favors. Explain that the bigger decisions are yours and yours alone.
• Attendants that Attend: Choose your attendants, on both sides, wisely. Ensure that he/she will be an ally not an adversary. Explain your wedding plan and identify potential troublemakers to them. Ask your attendants to step between you and anyone that threatens to thwart that plan, not only before the wedding day, but especially on the day itself. By doing so, you will be able to enjoy your moment as it should be.
• Find your inner Bridezilla: If having the perfect day is extremely important to you, let no one detract you from your goal. A wedding is a huge undertaking with budgets, accessory choices, vendors and deadlines. Planning that would make a Fortune 500 mogul blanche. The key to ensuring your plan falls into place, your day is as enjoyable for you as it is for your guests, and that the romance of the moment is never lost, is to find your inner Bridezilla and to be assertive. In the end it will be worth it…after all, it is your day.

©2007 Weddingstar Inc.